Through my own personal growth and deep love for myself
Here is how I moved from tainted love to real love.
You see, I too have been brought up in an environment where I was praised only when I achieved something.
Everytime that happened I had to pick up my game and aim for something bigger and stronger.
Half of the time my parents weren't even home to notice, They were too busy making a living so they can, in their experience, provide the best for me. That led me to a constant need to prove my worth on a daily basis. Relationships, jobs, skills I kept seeking for an outside approval, for someone to signal that they noticed and that I am loved and appreciated. By the time someone did, I either questioned it or denied it. Either way I never truly believed it. I became dependant on people's approval of me. I didn't trust my own evaluation of me. I never knew how to get it.
Self sabotage has become my second nature. I fell from one bad relationship to another. Hurting my self, allowing others to hurt me, made one wrong turn after another, blamed my dad for most of it most of the time. I had to blame someone!
Until I found forgiveness.
Forgiveness for myself.
Little by little I shed all those layers of hurt, shame, guilt and found my true pure essence.
It was terrifying at first. It hurt a hell of a lot. I tripped over many times and repeated my non loving patterns until I just couldn't do it anymore. I then chose life.
I chose freedom. I chose joy and happiness.
I chose to put myself first and who ever was going to take that away from me had to go.
The decision to do it took seconds.
To act and maintain on that decision took support and the deep understanding that this is an ongoing journey.
I figured if I could do it once I can do it over and over again and become really good at it.
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